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How do western men and Asian women play power games in dating and relationships?

Men and women play power games in dating and relationships – that’s old news. We interviewed 37 western men last month regarding power games they have played in their previous relationships, and the findings are very interesting: most men report that western women tend to play more games, Asian women play less games & Eastern European women don’t really play games. Now we are going to explore power games that western men and Asian women oftentimes play in their relationships.

  • Older western men and younger Asian ladies – resources VS femininity: In English-speaking countries, men have been taught to “be nice to women” since a very young age and education at school doesn’t include dating skills at all. As a consequence, many western men in English-speaking countries don’t have good game and can’t get girls. Therefore, a large number of men in their late 30s, 40s and even 50s have just started to learn game. Interestingly, many of these western men prefer Asian girls. As a matter of fact, when a guy begins to learn game at an older age, he has a bigger chance to get very good at game, partly because he has already had a lot of life experience, and partly because he has got more resources than younger men. Indeed, a 35-year-old man usually already has his own house and doesn’t have a roommate, so in terms of logistics, he can easily take an Asian beauty home without just banging her in a public toilet like 20-year-old pickup artists do (many boys in their early 20s are still living with their parents). Having said that, as an older guy, he also has to spend more time unlearning certain habits while improving his game. For example, 40-year-old Stephen is an American guy who doesn’t know how to talk to women – he talks about science fiction and video games with Asian beauties, just like the way he talks to men. In fact, a guy with good game always talks to women differently, i.e. when a consummate dater is talking to a woman, he should stop talking about science fiction and video games because women don’t really know these topics and probably aren’t interested in any of these, yet when he talks to men, of course he should talk about topics that men are interested in. Therefore, it takes Stephen a very long time to unlearn this habit. But anyway, he can still unlearn it and improve his game. Now he has joined an Asian women dating website to practice his game every day. Meanwhile, Asian women dating older western men are usually very feminine women because they expect older guys to protect and provide – they are more traditional. In this situation, older western men are using their resources to get Asian ladies’ femininity – it’s a mutually beneficial scenario which benefits everyone in the dynamics. Therefore, this power game is legitimate, younger Asian ladies
  • Younger western men and Asian girls – fun VS open-mindedness: In Liam McRae’s book Rapid Escalation, he writes about his experience with a girl from Asia: he met an Asian lady on the plane and their conversation was great. But it didn’t work out because that Asian woman wasn’t attracted to his playfulness. Indeed, many Asian women find pure playfulness annoying or weird because if playfulness isn’t backed up by wisdom and sophistication, women from Asia wouldn’t be interested. I’m not saying Liam McRae isn’t sophisticated. I mean spending a few hours on the plane with a lady from Asia wasn’t enough for her to find out his wisdom and brains – she probably needed more time to learn more about Liam McRae. That being said, there are still many Asian stunners who are very open-minded & they are happy to hook up with White men who are playful, spontaneous and fun-loving, no matter these western men have brains or not. However, most of these relationships are only short-term flings rather than long-term commitments. But to be fair, in dating and relationships, you usually get exactly what you deserve – if you are looking for an Asian wife who has beauty and intelligence, chances are you must have brains yourself. If you don’t have wisdom and you are looking for a wife from Asia, perhaps you’ll meet Asian girls without brains and they want to marry you. I know this isn’t the most pleasant thing to say or hear, but I don’t want to lie to you. This blog is all about honesty. And that’s my honest opinion. Overall, there are a large number of ladies from Asia who are open-minded & they are happy to hook up with western men just like a lot of western women do in this contemporary hook-up culture. To be more specific, this power game is about identifying the intention of an Asian woman – does she want a fling only? Or does she want a serious relationship? Nevertheless, Robert Greene once said, “Power is a game, and in games you do not judge your opponents by their intentions but by the effects of their actions.” Okay, now this article has become controversial.
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  • Western men and Asian beauties – dominant men VS submissive women: I’ve heard some people say “Oh, a western guy dating an Asian woman? That relationship is all about a dominant guy banging a submissive girl.” Well, that’s clearly a generalization because everyone’s situation is different. I really don’t like those so-called “dating gurus” giving dating advice at random on the Internet – they don’t know what happens behind closed doors; they don’t know every person’s specific situation; they just read 20 dating books and come up with something relevant to sell online. That is off-putting. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with a relationship characterized by a dominant western man and a submissive Asian woman – as long as they are happy, it has nothing to do with anyone else. People who are judging couples like that are just jealous! If you have a look at Fifty Shades of Grey, you will figure out that western women are also yearning for dominant alpha men! By the way, the story in Fifty Shades of Grey is actually the reality of many girls in Asia – In the Asian culture, BDSM is the standard routine in the bedroom for many couples. Nonetheless, it’s a fantasy for most western women – and that’s why western women want to read Fifty Shades of Grey (they even find it highly addictive)! In conclusion, the power game regarding dominant western men and submissive Asian women is justified.dating Asian girls
  • If a western man is interested in dating Asian girls, chances are he is interested in meeting MANY Asian ladies. Generally speaking, there are three types of western men who are into Asian women: 1) Western men who are sexually attracted to Asian beauties only; 2) western men who are attracted to western women and Asian women; 3) western men who are attracted to western women, but because of some special experiences in life, they begin to become attracted to Asian stunners. I have to say that the majority of western men on Asian fetish websites are in the first category. If that’s you, please don’t tell your Asian girlfriend about it because she doesn’t want to know that she is only one of those girls that you feel attracted to. Women want to be chosen; they don’t want to be objectified.